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It was ME, not THEM, SHOOT!

Written by Megan May

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Posted on March 05 2024

Last week I became a real "B" to my husband and kids. I had a million things that I needed to get done at the beginning of the week and I also had a wild two year old with me each day while trying to accomplish that big list.

So when my family came home, I just expected them to know all my thoughts going on and help me out.

And guess what??? They didn't.

They carried on their merry way enjoying the beautiful February evening while I was downstairs pressing 70+ goodie bags, still with the wild toddler that I had all day.

I came upstairs to see them all outside laughing and playing, having grand old time and it instantly ticked me off. Oh and by the way there was nothing planned or prepared for supper at 6pm....Perfect.

So not only did I have a milling things to do, but I had to start preparing dinner and feed these people that were ticking me off.

And I did it. Very unjoyfully. I even remember praying over dinner with them taking very deep breaths to get through it.

The next day my husband very bravely sent a text to me "Is everything ok"?

I took a deep breath and in that moment, I realized what I expected from them was unrealistic and unfair.

They couldn't read my mind

They had no idea how my day went

They weren't even home to see me battling work and the toddler

And I never once communicated with them what I needed from them. So I ugly cried (because it is almost that time of the month, another highlight in my life) while responding to my husbands message why I was frustrated and how my expectations were unrealistic with my lack of communication and apologized for the B that I was being.

It was ME, not THEM. That SUCKS....

But great things come from those moments. Better communication comes from those moments.

If I didn't come to this realization, my family would NEVER let me host another event again. And that's not why I did it. They don't get the worst of me so women attending can get the best of me.

So I asked for help. I communicated. And my week got so much better!

Lessoned learned ladies. No one can read your complicated mind, you need to communicate with those you love. If you fail to, its not their fault, it is yours.

Here is to a great week of communication, we got this!

Love & Friendship- Megan