Lack of Communication

On Sunday our Pastor shared a quote on communication that hit me a little extra so I thought I would share.

The biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.

I think the lack of communication is a big challenge in many of our relationships. In marriage, mom life, friendships, work force, etc.

In fact, I grew up in a home where communication was not good or very clear and still to this day I am usually the middle man communicating between frustrations of other family members.

On the flip side as much as I do try to over communicate with my own family, it certainly falls short from time to time.

My brain is going in a million directions and if I get frustrated with my husband or kids it is almost always the lack of communication I have with them.

Example telling my kids to "clean up their room" - For them that can be simply ensuring there is a small walkway for me to tuck them in safely without stepping on a lego and bad words coming out of my mouth... On the flip side " Clean your room" on my end means it better look great. Bed made, garbage gone, floor vacuumed, toys in the proper bin, and ALL the drawers need to shut.

With my husband there have been many times I told him I had something going on and failed sharing all the necessary details. Or when I am angerly walking around the house looking at all the things that need to be done and expect everyone to just know what to do.

No one can read your mind.

Effective communication is huge. It can prevent so many frustrations, fights, hurt, and more.

So lets challenge ourselves this week and going forward to "over communicate".

If something is bothering you, talk about it.

If you expectations are not being met, talk about it.

If you are disappointed in someone, talk about it.

If you are feeling hurt, talk about it.

Talk about it when you have taken a deep breath, calmed down, and maybe waited a day or two. Effective communication doesn't come from yelling or being snotty and sarcastic (all feelings I have certainly had)- but it comes from your heart, in a calm and thoughtful manner. Sometimes it even comes from apologizing first and then going into a good conversation.

So lets do better ladies. We owe that to the important relationships around us!

Love & Friendship, Megan